Psychotherapy for Anger
At Given to Fly, we offer a non-judgmental space to explore your relationship with anger. Together, we look beneath the surface to understand what your anger may be protecting, expressing, or communicating. Rather than learning to suppress anger, we work toward understanding it, responding to it differently, and using it as a source of information and growth.
“Anger is a signal, and one worth listening to.” — Harriet Lerner
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Anger Counselling
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“I keep saying things I regret.”
Anger can feel overwhelming in the moment, making it difficult to pause before responding. Afterwards, feelings of guilt, shame, or frustration may arise. Together, we work to understand these patterns and develop new ways of expressing emotions that align with your values and relationships.
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“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” — Buddha
Types of Anger
Chronic Irritability
You may find yourself feeling easily frustrated, impatient, or annoyed throughout the day. Even small inconveniences can feel overwhelming when stress, burnout, or emotional exhaustion have accumulated over time.
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Explosive Anger
Explosive anger involves intense emotional reactions that feel difficult to control. Outbursts may occur suddenly and leave you feeling ashamed, confused, or disconnected from how you want to respond.
Relationship Anger
Conflict within relationships can trigger feelings of resentment, hurt, disappointment, or frustration. Anger often emerges when important emotional needs feel unmet or when communication patterns become strained.
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Trauma-Related Anger
For many individuals, anger develops as a protective response to trauma, betrayal, neglect, or chronic stress. Anger can become a way of defending against vulnerability, fear, or emotional pain.
Parenting Anger
Parenting can be deeply rewarding, but it can also be exhausting and emotionally demanding. Stress, lack of support, sleep deprivation, and unrealistic expectations can contribute to feelings of frustration, guilt, and anger.
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Workplace Anger and Burnout
Work-related stress, unfair treatment, conflict, or chronic pressure can create significant frustration and resentment. Over time, these experiences may impact your emotional wellbeing, relationships, and sense of self.
Suppressed Anger
Not all anger is expressed outwardly. Some individuals have learned to suppress, avoid, or disconnect from anger altogether. This can lead to anxiety, depression, resentment, physical tension, or difficulty asserting personal needs and boundaries.
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Anger Following Betrayal
Experiences of betrayal, infidelity, broken trust, or abandonment often evoke intense anger. These feelings may coexist with grief, confusion, sadness, and uncertainty about how to move forward.
“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” — Carl Jung
Getting Help for Your Anger
As a therapist, I offer a supportive space where anger is approached with curiosity rather than judgment. Together, we explore the experiences, emotions, and unmet needs beneath the anger so that it no longer has to control your relationships, decisions, or sense of self.
Improve Emotional Awareness
Strengthen Communication Skills
Reduce Reactivity
Therapy for Anger Approach
Treatment for anger is individualized and tailored to your unique experiences, triggers, and goals. Rather than focusing solely on controlling anger, we work to understand what is driving it and develop healthier ways of responding to difficult emotions. Using a trauma-informed and culturally curious lens, we explore the thoughts, emotions, bodily sensations, and life experiences that contribute to anger. Depending on your needs, therapy may include Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) to identify and challenge unhelpful thought patterns, Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) to strengthen emotional regulation and distress tolerance skills, and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) to help you respond to difficult emotions with greater flexibility and self-compassion. We also incorporate somatic interventions and mindfulness-based approaches to help regulate the nervous system, increase awareness of emotional and physical cues, and create space between feeling anger and acting on it.